In evidence of an apparent recent trend, several people have found my website by searching the phrase "self-discovery questions." They ultimately find my site because I mention "self-discovery" and I mention "questions" in other places - for example in the page I put together for people who need to know where to start when they decide it's time to build a website. It occurred to me now that it might be a fun exercise to actually create a list of what I think of as questions related to self-discovery. I certainly do value the asking of questions as a means to better understanding myself. Maybe some of my readers might like to add to the list by posting in the comment area.
I've come across questions that I think of as helpful to ask when working out some sort of self-identity concerns. So let's see...what questions might help one get to the bottom of answering the overarching question: Who Am I? Well, in no particular order and with no credentials to back up my authority in having created such a list:
- What matters most to me?
- Where do I see myself in five years? Ten years? 15?
- Am I in the career that makes me happy?
- Is there anything I've always really wanted to do that I still haven't attempted?
- How can I make the most valuable contribution to society or my community?
- Do I make choices that allow me to balance what I do for other people with what I do for myself?
- If I could change one thing about my life, what would it be?
- Have I learned the important lessons from my life's greatest regrets?
- What can I do differently, going forward, to ensure my life has greater meaning to me?
- If I met me for the first time, would I want to be friends with me?
Well that was kinda' fun. These are the kinds of questions I've asked myself over the years. Sometimes doing so allows me to change things that need changing. Other times asking these questions gives me angst and adds pressure - which I take to mean I need to table the questions for less-stressful, future times. It seems to me, though, that asking such questions does help me to understand myself and my motivations better. And as a result, I'm able to periodically realign my choices so my ideal of what's most admirable and the person I actually am, are closely aligned.
I look forward to reading other questions you might like to add to this list!