It seems like a no-brainer, but sometimes you have to hear or read something in a certain way to finally get the message. Danielle LaPorte got my attention today with her White Hot Truth blog post: "get immediate relief: energy leaks + enlightenment." She does that sometimes. Gets my attention with the way she phrases things, or, y'know, points out something that makes so much sense you wonder why she had to tell you at all.
The energy leaks of which she writes are those things we face over and over, continuing to just deal with them, rather than take what would sometimes be mere minutes - though not always - to just handle them once and for all. A couple of her examples are "the lock that always sticks," and "that kink in your neck."
Every time you make REPEATED contact with aggravating tasks and situations, you make a conscious or unconscious choice to endure (the root of the word endure is 'to suffer',) and to settle with less-than-ideal.
That's where she really grabbed my attention. The part about how it's a choice, and in making what masks itself as a paltry, insignificant choice, we often accept quite unnecessary weight into our already-over-complicated lives.
From my own Web Of Neurosis I keep thinking of this one task that keeps appearing on my To Do List, every day getting scanned past, or the date changed to tomorrow - because of course I'm going to finally do it tomorrow! Right? Only... that thing? It's been on the list for so long I almost forget to notice it's there. And when I actually sit down to handle it? It'll probably take me 37 minutes to complete, from start to finish. How long have I spent, I wonder, considering that task, the pressure of seeing it still there, the reordering it day after day, feeling the twinges of guilt that I haven't yet handled it, making excuses for why I haven't... (Hint: all said and done, it will almost definitely add up to more than 37 minutes.)
What about you? Do you recognize these patterns in your rhythms? Is there one thing you could do, once and for all, that would eliminate an ongoing annoyance and free up time and energy for more fulfilling pursuits? Care to share?
Meanwhile - speaking of neuroses - the little insert that reads "pretend that your neuroses are charming" is also from Danielle LaPorte. She has this ongoing thread in her blog simply called "truisms from Danielle." Perhaps you'll enjoy some of these too... This one just gave me a giggle tonight. What with all the ways I'm looking to find the best angle for my personal set of neuroses. I love thinking of them as charming. Often do. (It's so much better than stressing over them, isn't it?) It's a great kindred spirit, I like to think, who came up with the idea of writing that one down for all to enjoy. Maybe you'll enjoy some, too...
Every time you make
with aggravating tasks and situations, you make a conscious or unconscious choice to endure (the root of the word endure is 'to suffer',) and to settle with less-than-ideal.