A.D.D. Wants Me for its Queen
There was once an entire blog-based website by this name, A.D.D. Wants Me for its Queen. I know this because I started it. And I wrote some interesting, hopefully insightful, often entertaining posts there. Posts that I intended to be helpful to other people facing the challenge of whether or not to explore this diagnosis, then what those people might expect, if they chose to seek "treatment" for A.D.D. or A.D.H.D.
That blog is no longer live because I realized it took quite enough energy, as it was, discovering the most healthful ways to capitalize on such a diagnosis for myself and "harness the up-sides" as I think of it, while keeping the challenges at bay. I did learn, through years of cycles, that you can't "fix it" with a pill, and it's probably never going away. Handy thing, though, is also realizing I don't really want my A.D.D./A.D.H.D. (I've been diagnosed with both,) to go away.
Instead, I have decided to:
- Do work that lights me up,
- Continue using the tools that help me maximize those benefits, and be open to new ones along the way,
- Surround myself with people who value my gifts and talents, even if they can't always "keep up" or don't always understand my mind,
- Remember that everyone doesn't have to get it. Or me.
- Remind myself, often, that I believe an authentic path is more likely to lead to success than trying to fit into a mold created by someone else.
Choices I would, in fact, recommend to every other person I know, regardless of how their brains are wired.
Find & Use Those Tools
In working out how best to navigate life with this diagnosis, some tools have been invaluable:
- One of the tools I use religiously is time-tracking software. I'm sure there are many options, but the one I choose is toggl.
- Then, in 2013, I got a therapist who specializes in this area. What took me so long? I highly recommend it. Not just a doctor who will diagnose meds if you choose that route, but someone with whom you can talk, who really does understand and whose insights can make the challenges seem less significant.
- Another, somewhat recent, addition to my arsenal of awesome workday tools is Focus @ Will. Though I don't, in fact, find their ADHD Beta Test music useful to my workflow. **New note! There's now a "Cafe Focus Beta" and "Cafe Creative Beta" that really are so very useful. I highly recommend them. Huh. Maybe there's some blog fodder.
- Exercise and stillness (sort of a beginner-version-of-meditation) really do help manage all the activity in this busy brain of mine.
- I've embraced a number of other supports and tools set up for ensuring I capitalize on this Disorder That Is Often Actually A Gift and will consider offering a greater resource later.